I really thought I'd have it all figured out by now. I thought it in December as I nervously prepared for graduation, and was certain I'd have it all figured out within the month as I submitted my first piece in this transition series. But sometimes the transition takes longer than you think.
The transition becomes your new normal and you find yourself with a college degree working three part time jobs. Life is crazy, a juggling act but I am great at all three of my jobs and I feel a sense of pride in all of them. Here I am still in the middle of the transition and learning to thrive in it. That's what it's all about isn't it?
No matter where you are in life, learning to truly and fully live the life you are in. When things aren't anything like you expected, (are they ever?) you keep going.
Take stock of this life you have and live the hell out of it.
If you are still in college, in a weird post grad transition time, if you are established, married with kids and a have stable job — no matter where you are, you take all you have got and give your life a run for its money. Don't wait for the transition to be complete — or if you are in a stable time, don't wait around for whatever is next — here and now you must thrive.
I stumbled across the story of Marina Keegan recently, at 22-years-old she was a rising star in the writing world. Tragically, 5 days after graduating from Yale, she was killed in a car accident. An essay she had written for Yale Daily News "The Opposite of Loneliness" went viral and eventually became the title essay for a collection of her works put together by her family and friends. I am reading that collection now and its so beautiful and good that it hurts.
I am struck again and again by her writing and who she was and how good she was. I am inspired and challenged that at 22, my age, she had such an incredible body of work. I recently have found myself thinking "I will write seriously when I have a stable job, when I have more time, when I figure things out, when I am older, when I've done more, when people would take me more seriously" ... And on and on.
These thoughts come from a place of fear — fear of rejection and inadequacy, of never being good enough. But learning Marina's story has sent a spark through me.
Life is so short, even if I live to be a hundred, there will never be enough time if I am waiting for things to be right and make sense.
Life is too short for "someday" dreams. I am a writer now and I must write like I believe it.
Shelby Radovich is a recent alumni from UNCW. She is now spending her days adjusting to post grad life, and making her way. She is passionate about writing and stories, and believes she's going to change the world someday. She also believes in self care in the form of naps, sweet treats and yoga. She Instagrams often and blogs occasionally.